Always remember, realistic fear gives you energy. It motivates you to change, run or rescue yourself from dangerous, damaging, lonely or painful experiences. Real fear provides you with power, taking you to the next level.
Unrealistic fear drains your energy, keeps you stagnate and holds you back from reaching your fullest potential. They make you a prisoner, holding you down with locks and chains.
Most of the time, we don’t realize how much of our day to day experiences are effected by these fears. Sometime we do not even know they exsist. We just find ourself unhappy, depressed, anxious or longing for something different, all the byproducts of unrealistic fears.
Let me be clear. When I say unrealistic fear, I am not talking about being afraid of thoughts, ideas, feelings or choices that are linked to criminal activities or that are hurtful to others. They are not that intense. Here are few examples of unrealistic fears:
- Fear of success
- Fear of Failure
- Fear of receiving love
- Fear of allowing to love
- Fear of sharing your ideas, thoughts and emotions
- Fear of standing up for yourself
- Fear of rejection
- Fear of commitment
- Fear of loss
- Fear of taking risks
- My favorite: Fear of Change
If you find yourself stagnant and unhappy, its time to recognize and let go of your fears. Keep in mind, unrealistic fears are not intense. They are not easily recognizable. You have to spend some quality time with your innerself to find the patterns of your fears. Understand that you walked with these fears all your life, therefore it is difficult to recognizes something so familiar. You will only realize how heavy the locks and chains of fears are until you free yourself from them. In addition, you hold on to fears because on some level they are working for you, even though they do not make you truly happy. So, you have two choices: 1) Continue to live with your fears until they become un-manageable; or 2) Take small steps to recognizing your fear based on old patterns and rescuing yourself. You hold the key to your happiness, it is your choice.
The concept of “Easier Said than Done” does not apply here. Because when you know the roots of your fears, it is so easy to let them go and allow yourself to experience life to the fullest.